Thursday, March 31, 2011

March 31 Dandy


They don't know I can type. I've waited till...ooops, almost caught. Anyway, they don't know I can manipulate these keys with my paws. Ah, but I can. It is not easy, and I have to do it when they are away or sleeping. Even then it is tricky. In any case, enough about me. I have been with my people now for well over many months. I have not yet mastered their calendar or clocks and I can see they measure in different ways than I do....Off the topic again. Ooops, must stop for a moment. Okay. They are nice to me and they call me a therapy dog now and although I am much more than that, I am content to let them label me in that way if that pleases them. And I can see that it does. It is a bit confusing to move around so much. I like the walks tho and this new place is nice. There are little lizards that I could catch. If my people would let me. Ooooops. Must end.

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

March 29 Lorin

Driving from Los Angeles to Malibu, especially after leaving the accident behind, was like entering a new world. The pictures of the new location really say it all and reflect the gratitude I feel and that I know Joy feels for reaching this place of quiet and healing. Nice as it was to have the beach right there, the planes were right there too. The energy here is quite different. Places to sit and stare at the Pacific. Space to be. Reflect. Be thankful.


March 29 Joy

March 29,2011
We left L A today and brought the RV to Malibu -- WOWOWOW. Peaceful, soft, beautiful, nice people, hot showers, store,and cable TV. Palm trees, flowers, gentle breeze - Dandy is happy Lorin is happy and i am so damn relieved and happy. YEA


This park like so many has a restriction on how many days a RV is allowed to be parked here. We had a leave date of April 28th. The minute we parked and smelled and saw the ocean --I said, "this is my healing place". Lorin said, God yes.
I went down to the office and spoke with the manager Dawn. As soon as i said i was in treatment at UCLA she reached across the counter and took my hand and said, you can stay here as long as you want. Many people come here to heal! Of course instant tears and then she had them. She also said - Please let me know if there is anything at all you need. I told her she just did it. We are here till Dr. releases me. BIG sigh. It is amazing how different this is from where we were. thank you for all of it, my Spirit guides, friends prayers, good wishes, angels, HP, healing energy, what ever was working to allow us to be here. What a blessing. I have included our mailing address .

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Monday, March 28, 2011

March 28 Lorin

Tomorrow we move about 22 miles North to an RV park in Malibu, and we've sworn not to mention a certain friend's name in that town. (She knows who she is, and so would the Malibuians if we divulged it.) But the reason for the post today is mainly to insert a picture of Dandy that should have been placed at the outset, one taken in January when he had a chance to run free on the beach not far from San Simeon point. So here it is, Dandy running at full speed:


And that's it for now.

Sunday, March 27, 2011

March 27 Lorin

The sun is out today and people are blasting along the bike path, on bikes of various sorts, or jogging, or strolling along, or roller blading. I'm sitting here watching them go by, and like the guy who just looked at his watch as he jogged, wondered whether maybe I shouldn't be out there. Oh, I was. Took Dandy for a longish walk. Took photos of the beach scene.

(Also see Joy's blog for today.) Spoke with a woman who barely made it up the hill on one of those bikes that look so vulnerable, where you lean back and pedal with your feet out in front of you...."So is that really better for your back?" "Your butt," she says, "that's what it saves." And off she pedals. I also spoke to a young German couple with an 11-month old baby; they're just ending their RV trip around California, which was all good "except for the weather." They hit all the rain and could not make it down from Carmel to see Hearst Castle because of the Hiway 1 closure. Which of course makes me think of Danny and his crews working away up there, and of Katie and Robb's coffee shop and of all our wonderful friends.

And this morning I thought what is wrong? Where has my humor gone? Joy is coming up with all the good lines, like the place is so small that you no longer go into another room and forget why you're there. I'm thinking this as I go into the bathroom to get my vitamins for the day. Pondering it all and I come out thinking the same thing and I tell this to Joy, who says "I don't have all the good lines," which is reassuring and all. And then, whack, I remember: I forgot to take my vitamins. Which makes me smile.

March 27 Joy

Hi all,
Our Motor home just became bigger, the SUN is out and the water is very blue. I love the mood of SUN. Washes away so much sadness.

We are enjoying this time -- seeing Andy and playing radio or watching his DVD's . Still no tv here and i truly don't miss it. There are a few shows i wonder about but they are fading from my desires. Andy's taste is mine too. Si-fi and nail biting stories but not gore or very large booming and explosive sounds. Haven't seen a chick flick but there are comedies to break up the heart thumping suspense.
I am enjoying this down time of rest and ease. I am sure Lorin and I have not been alone for this amt. of time ever. Nice to know it is working.
I have had about 3 fast melt downs the whole time. Lorin's New England stock has not shown signs deep worry or stress which is ok by me---one drama queen is all this motor home can handle.
We are both doing one day at a time and turning the worry over. One way is of course writing this blog.

So many have written love and prayers and sent wonderful emails. I have received a special gift of a Mandela with Celtic overtones with the word "healing" on it. I wear it with my peace, love, harmony necklace. I am a bit stunned knowing how many care.

Of course this trip has me assessing my life and working at being as honest as possible.(denial is a powerful energy). Over all I am quite happy about my journey so far. I am blessed to have had so much. Many adventures and knowing more are in the future, travel and a wonderful man to be with. Dandy does complete our family. My daughter has kidded me about loving Dandy more than her -- not more just different i tell her.



The beauty of art, music and nature is a strong part of me, like my back bone. Something to turn my attention to when fear is calling me. Having that along with all of you has been the biggest of blessings. Thank God for the Toledo Museum of Art. A really wonderful place to grow up. (As a child i was there every weekend in art or music class)
Now those of you who do not know the Museum and have hung out in bigger cities thinking they must be oh so much better. Nope. Toledo has a top rated one and it is free every day. An endowment by Edmund Drummond Libby has grow through the years and the Museum can maintain it's self.

I might sound like a broken record about this however if you are in Toledo it would be crazy not to go there. Be sure to see the Glass art building across the street, yep a whole building. Libby (glass maker) was headquartered in Toledo. Of course there was a great interest in glass art. In fact the American Glass art movement's start was there.
I keep coming back to the Museum in my head and writing, sometimes tears of gratitude drop when i think of that wonderful building.

I have emails to answer so this self indulgence will stop for now. thanks for connecting. love to all, joy

Friday, March 25, 2011

March 25 Joy

Hi all
Yesterday was a mile marker. I drove for the first time in 16 days! YEA! also went to Whole foods which is like walking into a garden of food, herbs and smells. I really love that place.
Driving was a kick tho i had forgotten how narrow 2 lanes going the same way can be. L A traffic is heavy and looking ahead is like a dance. Cars in and out and some mellow drivers and not so mellow drivers. I am always amazed that i even enjoy the drama of stop and go, watching women putting on makeup and so many on the phone or texting or even reading knowing that to drive in that traffic takes a lot of attention. How do they do that?
Drive time in the evening gets a bit frantic. People want to be home not looking at, well, us. Drivers not understanding i can't go faster than the car in front of me so they push which makes me go slower, a form of road rage too. What i do notice BIG time is how the huge cars are not on the road as before. We saw our first Hummer today and it just looks silly. I saw a "Smart" car on the freeway and that looked silly and very dangerous. Those cars look like gulf cars with a top.
The rain was starting to be way too much, it felt like the RV was shrinking. Too crowded and a bit of testy feelings and responds. We too have had way too much rain and are ready to enjoy the sun. Todays weather is sunny and mild. I haven't checked on flowers blooming all over the Central and So CA and i can bet they are stunning now. if anyone has explored them let me know or send photos please. We love going to see Spring flowers -- poppies are my favorite. Fields and fields of them.
Today i talked with two friends and received many emails -- just when i was feeling forgotten. Thanks guys/gals.
Thank God for cell phones.
oh, BTW. Lorin found an app that allows us to become a wi-fi hot spot with our phones at no charge, and the cell charges as we are on line, perfect. We have a data plan with Verizon and the app. is Pda net -- we are both on line with it now.

We are living without tv but have DVDs that Andy loaned to us. Inception was awesome and i was bragging to Andy that i saw 3 layers -- he said I missed two.. oh. If you have seen it what do you think? Saw Air force One -- was a very good movie and my heart didn't stop pounding for about 20 minutes after the movie stopped. Then last night we saw L A story again. Very sweet movie.. i love sap. We have been getting great feed back so it is a pleasure to be sharing events and ideas. be safe and healthy and happy, love, joy

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

March 23 Joy

Hi all,
I had my after surgery apt yesterday. Dr. said the parameters taken around the cells for clearance on the left side were not big enough to define the extent of clear cells so i will need a small surgery - a local. April 7th is the date pushing us into end of April for recovery. Radiation for 6 weeks after.
This is pushing us till the end of May in the L A area.. damn.
Really want to be in Ohio the end of May for a reunion of women who went to school together at age 13 or so. I am thinking it still can work??
OK, one step at a time here.For now i am on hold till the first of April when the next step is a mammogram.. Lorin took wonderful notes and again my recorder and i had a mis-understanding about record and I didn't get her reading and advise recorded. However, i have all the written reports from day one -- all my other tests are great and this is wonderful to know I am healthy underneath this event.

Our accountant is in Vegas and Lorin will be going there before the first to meet with him.
Meanwhile i have a chunk of time. Andy and i will most likely go to Venice -- 3rd street Santa Monica and do some exploring. I may be able to go to Agape next Sunday. I miss the energy and spirit of that center.
Today is sunny and the water calm. We might have rain in the near future.
thanks to all for your emails and support during this time. Keep that healing thought coming my way please.
love and blessings, joy

Sunday, March 20, 2011

March 20

A big storm has hit with lots of rain and heavy winds. Our RV is rocking and I expect that when I walk outside again I'll have "sea legs," and take time to adjust to walking on land. Lots of people, far less endurance-oriented than we, have pulled out of the park. As I walked Dandy this morning, clad in my rain jacket complete with hood, I spied numerous people running around without any such protection and, I must admit, felt smug. Those people are long gone. Oh well. We've been snug and listening to music, reading the morning paper, and so on. All to the good.


And here is Joy's input for today:



Here we are Lorin and Joy sitting in this 28 foot rv without TV on a very rainy day.  We bought a Target small "old fashioned" radio (I tune the stations with a dial ).  Has wonderful sound for this space and we are enjoying the PBS classical station that now comes up to Morro Bay and beyond. Lorin and i are playing a game that we haven;t played in years, guess the composer.  Great fun for us, if we are not certain of the composer we talk about the period it was written and was it German? Russian? oh god it sounds English.  Or the American geniuses we hear and the influence the Russian composers had on Gershwin, Copeland and Bernstein and how those three composers had such a powerful impact on human rights here in this country.  Gershwin with Porgy and Bess, Copland with a Common Man and Bernstein with West Side Story.  All three did much more than this writing and we sit in awe listening to music composed by visionariness that shape a movement or idea or heart.  Music that influences a country a movement or change in governments is not new and I would love to take a course for the rest of my life on this. Did it start with Beethoven when he became dis-enchanted with Napoleon?  Or Mozart?  Wait a minute , music goes back through human experience.  The voice, the reverence -- church, temple, slave music, native music designed to open hearts and give courage, a voice to the underdog or to keep the status quo.


For today however I am  thrilled to get back to "the garden" where we fell in love.  I missed this game but didn't know it.  Today i am happy we are confined to this space and time with our little radio creating large feelings and joy.


love to all, joy


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Wow.
Tonight we watched the classic Michael Douglas/Charlie Sheen Wall Street film, which seemed so prophetic. And before that, reading the news about unrest in Middle Eastern countries and bombing of Libya, I recalled  the Solidarity movement in Poland. The role of faxes; later of youth in China; and now social media. Communication revolution. Thought about cartoons from the late 1890s and early 1900s which showed people on vacations instantly in touch with their offices, to the wonder of all....And here we sit in an RV using our "smart phones" as modems plugged into our laptops. Talk about communication revolutions. 

Saturday, March 19, 2011

March 18

Charlie
Windy at the beach. The park fills up on the weekends. Along with the St. Pat folks we have a cluster of Marine vets who are parked opposite the end-of-the-world-starts-on-May-21 believers, all of which makes for interest. At least in my imagination. The interesting day tho,  started when Dandy and I met Charlie, a three-year-old bulldog being pushed around the park so his feet wouldn't get sandy....He seemed content to be pushed. Neither he nor his owner, an athletic young woman, had much to say. Dandy appeared semi-envious of Charlie's chariot.

March 17

This morning I talked with the fellow who collects plastic bottles from the trash containers in the park. He describes himself as a "rationalist" and soon revealed himself to be other than that. Get rid of the unions first; they get paid too much. What about the hedge fund guys? We'll take care of them in time. The problem started under Reagan with deregulation. Agreed. It's the Federal Reserve. A private organization. I had top secret clearance., Run by Jews. Excuse me. It got more specific along the way; this is disjointed. I walked out on it, with him telling me to go back and read my history, I'd see.

I thought starting out that this would be a place for humor along the way. There was more to the day than this one encounter, of course, and part of it was humorous. Following our trusty GPS to a COSTCO that did not exist, then heading back toward a Target and seeing a McDonald where we could get a frozen yogurt. And by god there was COSTCO, right next door....Go figure.

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

March 8, 2011
When the movers arrived the big question became would all our stuff fit into the storage unit in San Luis Obispo plus the garage we’d rented in Morro Bay. We’d moved out of the big house in Cambria in September and most of our possessions were in SLO. So where did all this other stuff come from? We’d even sold or donated various items in the rental house. Still it was a down-to-the-wire proposition. (Oh crap, a cliche, and I really don’t want to get into a rewrite here.) The guys unloaded at Morro Bay and then it was on to SLO; they had to call in a supervisor but stuffed the rest of the stuff in. Barely.

That was only the tip of the iceberg. (Uh oh.) Unbeknownst to us, the movers had packed some of our landlady’s art. We discovered this when we started moving her things back in from the garage. So we left on Tuesday the 8th shouldering a burden of guilt and shame. Well, that might be overstating it. But there it is.

We left her a note: go to my www.cambriacreations.com website, select a print and I’d do up a nice 24 x 36 photo-on-canvas for her. And in a year when we get back and unpack, we’ll find her picture or pictures and send them along.

Wait. We’re not even on the road yet. In order to be mobile when we reach different places, we bought a device to haul Joy’s car. Rvers call them dinghy’s—just like what yachters call the little boats they trail behind. We hadn’t had great luck with this Kartote. Still, I hooked up the thing to our intrepid RV (we still haven’t named it) and off we went to Morro Bay to unload yet more stuff. (Joy drove down in the Avalon as she needed to gas up.)

That done, we tried to load the Avalon onto the dinghy. As in the past, this proved a disaster, again mashing part of Joy’s front bumper. It’s the dinghy, not me, I swear. Finally, we said screw it and tried to donate the damned Kartote to the thrift shop that happed to be conveniently across the alley. When they couldn’t get hold of the right person, we prevailed upon the wonderful, friendly, helpful and unsuspecting fellow who’d rented us the garage to put it up for sale and split the profits with us. As he said, he’d expected to maybe hear from us that we were half way across the country—not, could you sell this?

So we drove to LA that way, me in the RV, Joy in the Avalon....We arrived in time for rush hour, which is not called that any more. In LA, people refer to “drive time.” It’s an interesting “repurposing” of the words, another phrase I enjoy. Wait, wait, it wasn't what I'd think of as normal rush hour because we didn't arrive in the area until after dark and at the RV park, after some last minute wrong turns, about 8:30pm. 

The guard at the gate assured us that we wouldn't hear the planes taking off from LAX (the park is kind of at the end of one of the runways...) “once you’re inside.” As I hooked up our RV to the sewer and the planes roared off overhead, I wondered if that could be true, and was too tired to care.

March 10, 2011
We worried a lot about getting Joy to the hospital at 7 and she came up with the solution; she'd stay overnight at a nearby hotel then take a taxi to UCLA.  I'd join her in pre-op and then later in recovery. And what about Dandy? Joy worried more about that than her surgery. I eventually took him with me and walked him in between trips up to see Joy. The pre-op personnel were wonderful, and Joy's attitude great. She joked with the two anethetheologists that "these drugs are better than the '60s," and whatever they were put her out pretty quickly. Hours later I joined Joy in the recovery room. As a sidebar, I should say that the personnel in surgery who I met were fantastic and although I'd not met Dr. Chang, who performed Joy's surgery, before she talked with me afterwards I was impressed.

March 12, 2011
Several days later. Joy’s recuperating in the RV and we’re both getting used to living in this tiny space, realizing that we brought along too much of this and too little of that. There's not much hanging space, or storage space so trying to keep order is not easy. The laundry bag has grown beyond its normal limits, and soon make seek to acquire additional territory. Perhaps a colony or two will suffice.

The RV park is run by the County of Los Angeles and “full hookup” here means something different than it does at private RV parks. There is no wi-fi network to connect to or cable tv to plug into. Our unit has a built in antenna and we are able to pull in several channels, two in English, the bulk of them in Spanish, the others in Japanese and Korean. This is LA after all. We didn’t want to pop for a satellite unit, but may have to. The bathrooms here are interesting also. The toilet paper is, I swear, less than one layer thick and it seems as if you have to use a chunk of the roll each time. Economy. Same for the showers. There are no handles. Instead, you push in a button where the handle should be and the water comes out...for a few seconds. No kidding. I shouted over to the stall next to me, where I heard the water running constantly, “What’s the trick to keep the water going?” Back came: “Take someone in with you, mate,” in a thick Australian accent. The trick actually is to use the handicap shower stall. There’s a handle there, and the water will run a bit longer, with occasion elbow nudges.

March 15, 2011
I was beginning to wonder why the hell I was writing this, thinking who would want to know what was going on anyway and why would I want to record it. Nothing going on. Haven’t met anyone interesting. Sticking around the RV. Watching people ride by on their bikes a few feet in front of us on the bike path. Periodic walks with Dandy for the pee and poop patrol. Pictures here and there.

Well, there has been some excitement. The day of the horrible earthquake in Japan Joy’s son Andy came knocking at our door. “Do you know about the tsunami warning? For twenty minutes from now! I’ve been phoning you!” We’d had our phones off, and of course no TV since, well, I explained that. Quick decision. We decided to drive the car to higher ground rather than unhook the RV. “You’ve got insurance, right?” “Right.” So that’s what we did, and joined a number of Angelenos on the bluff above our beach RV park to see if a possible 4-6 foot wave might come in. No damage here, but some across the waters in Catalina....

Last night a bevy of identical Rvs pulled into the park, words emblazoned on their sides. “Have you heard the awesome news, the end of the world is coming. May 21, 2011 is the beginning. The Bible guarantees it.” There’s more to it, including what looks like the international road sign circle with the red line through it—but in the center of that is the year 2012, presumably to let us know that the Mayans did not have it right, or that the misinterpretations of the Mayans, rather, did not have it right. Oi.

Today I met a guy who clearly was not an Rver, I surmised, because of the large backpack on the bench and the bike. No fancy gears. I didn’t ask how he got in. “It’s a Schwinn from, like 1969. I ground the kick stand off. Do that with all my Schwinns.” He and his wife, it turns out, started out on their bikes from San Diego — “We kind of live around, get to meet people.” They’re heading north from here. “We’ll maybe catch the train in Ventura, that’s where it comes in at the coast, could get it in downtown in LA, but I don’t like that. I was born in the state, fifty-two years, and whenever I get away from the coast it’s trouble.”